Mummy

Things have not been smooth for mum of late. She had this eye condition which practically blocked a large part of her vision of one eye. Recently there was a bleed in the same eye which caused her vision to be even worse since. She had a fall recently and she attributed it to the eye problem. As an optometrist I can pretty much understand what she is going through. One of the eye doc she sees in my workplace recommends her leaving her eye alone to heal which is the usual practice unless the patient wants surgical intervention. I was pretty much against it cos of the hassle not just of the surgery but the aftercare as well.

Yesterday mummy decided to tell me bout how disturbed she was with the problem in the eye she decided to seek a second opinion elsewhere. She was recommended surgery and I suspect its the one I am against cos there is not much alternatives for her eye condition. She told me to take leave to accompany her next wed to see the team which will perform the surgery for her so that I can ask all the questions I need to. As much as I do find her silly ('stupid' is a more apt word but rude to use) considering the fact that her son is an optometrist and works in an eye clinic, I guess she really is desperate about her condition. Maybe a couple of years back I would have given her a piece of my mind for not listening to doctors and instead listening to whatever she feels (she is a lawyer by the way), but now I am too tired to try anything close.

So, my conclusion is pretty simple. I will go and see the team and ask intelligent questions. Then I will leave her to decide. As much as I feel she lacks common sense, there is only so much I can say or do and she will have to learn to face up to whatever dumb decisions she makes. At least now, she has been humbled to the extent she is starting to learn to listen to proper advice (wish she had done so earlier, could have saved her a lot of heartaches). I used to use all means to get her to listen and take my advice. Time for me to stop that. I do not want to be like her.......